The Power of Edutainment: Law & Order SVU

Who would have thought that a show with a single prominent theme could run for over 20 years? Well, “Law and Order – SVU” premiered on September 20th, 1999 on NBC and became on September 27th 2019 the longest-running primetime drama!

I have to say that Mariska Hargitay and her team of detectives are some of my favorite peeps to watch on TV, week after week, in their attempts to make the streets of New York City a safer place.

What never seem to amaze me is that the number of stories of violence made against children, young girls, teenagers and women (and occasionally men) is so copious the writers of the show never seem run out of “inspirations”: numbers are staggering.

No doubt in my mind it helped shift our perceptions around the epidemic of sexual assault and domestic violence, and hopefully made a difference in how we perceive survivors. By showcasing the trauma endured by victims having to maneuver through the justice system, pointing out how abusers operate and cunning they can be, among other things… the show has allowed millions of viewers to get acquainted with the reality of assault victims but also the job of detectives.

In my opinion, L&O also contributed to the fight against the crimes of domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence and stalking by giving us the tools to recognize it and the language to describe + “normalizing”, if you will, the process of reporting it. It opened the door to discussions we never would have had if not for it. Moreover, episode after episode it persistently delivers a potent truth: It is not Victims’ fault.

the “Duluth Model” Power and Control Wheel

There has been advancement and I want to stay hopeful for the future even if we still have a long way to go as women’s bodies are continuously under attack, attempted to be shamed, controlled, policed and silenced by men, women, the justice system and institutions.

I hope to see even more men getting involved and take responsibility to dismantle the system they put into place and benefit from – maybe a place to start can be Marishka’s foundation website, the Joyful Heart Foundation, and read its insightful report Defining Manhood for the Next Generation – which main goal is to offer “greater insight into how young men’s understanding and definition of manhood, the role of men and women, and sexuality and sexual orientation so to navigate authentically building upon the positive underpinnings of masculinity to promote an aspirational view of masculinity and change attitudes about manhood.

Here are a couple excerpts:

” While many young men state that gender equality and the respectful treatment of others are priorities, the views some hold regarding gender, gender roles, sex, and sexual assault underscore the challenge to catalyze a cultural shift. Too many young men refuse to push back against and outright disagree with antiquated and dangerous societal norms.”

“One out of every four young men does not disagree that the victim is to blame in cases of sexual assault.”

Even if this report focuses on young men, it highlights many beliefs that may be carried on in adulthood *This may explain why some people still defend predators* – so it is worth for everyone to take a look at.

NO MORE PSA “Speechless” 30 second Campaign

To me, violence against women starts when we tell little girls to be “good”, little boys “don’t act like a girl”, and we fail to cultivate empathy and compassion within our communities. Shows such as Law and Order SVU, demonstrates the consequences of our shortcomings. A conscious form of edutainment in its attempts to bring awareness. It created a launching pad for change, and combined with people’s efforts and truly hope it’ll minimize even further the stigma and shame associated with sexual and mental abuse.

Get help:

The Hotline® – National Domestic Violence Hotline

National Network to End Domestic Violence

6 Different Types of Abuse

The Duluth Model – Domestic Abuse Intervention Program

#MeToo Movement

Additional material:

How to Overcome Trauma & Self Compassion from The School of Life

The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Podcast and Blog by Natalie Lue – on Relationships and Boundaries

The Power of Vulnerability TED TALK by Brené Brown

On Women’s Brain, Brain Food and Mental Health – *Bilingual Post – Français & English*

Bilingual Post French/English

Un de mes podcast préféré s’appelle #KwikBrain avec présentateur et spécialiste de l’apprentissage @jimkwik.

Chaque fois que j’écoute son podcast, je me cale confortablement et prends mon cahier de notes puis je réfléchit ce que j’apprends pendant l’episode et essaie de partager.

Je decide donc aujourd’hui de parler – en français (je pense que pas tout le monde parle l’anglais) de l’episode avec docteur Lisa Mosconi neuroscientist et neurologiste, fondatrice de #WomenBrainIntiative, .

Elle nous explique que les femmes sont plus sujettes aux risques liés aux maladies mentales que les hommes. Par exemple les elles souffrent deux fois plus de dépression/anxiéte, 3 fois plus de maladies auto-immune, maux de tête, tumeurs du cerveaux, etc… De plus, 2 patients d’Alzheimer sur 3 sont des femmes.

Cela est du, elle explique, en partie au taux de changement d’hormones notamment en pre-ménaupose/ménaupose. On commence a peine a s’interesser sur la question. En tant que femme, et avec ma formation de diététicienne je suis très intéressée sur la question. Je donc viens de commander son livre “Brain Food” dont je ferai la revu très bientôt.

En attendant pour les personnes bilingues, vous pouvez écouter l’épisode 88 de Kwik Brain sur les applications de Podcast ou sur Youtube “What You Need to Know about Women’s Brains” Je mets tous les liens dessous!!!

English translation:

One of my favorite podcasts is #KwikBrain with host and “brain specialist @JimKwik. Whenever I listen to this podcast, I sit down comfortably and take my notebook, then I reflect on what I have learnt during the episode and share.

Today, I have decided talk about in French (for those who do not speak English) and English of the episode with neuroscientic @Dr_Mosconi founder of #WomensBrainIntiative . 

She explains that women are more subject to the risks associated with mental illness than men. For example, they suffer twice as much from depression / anxiety, 3 times more from autoimmune diseases, headaches, brain tumors, etc. In addition, 2 out of 3 Alzheimer patients are women. This is due, she explains, in part to the rate of hormone change, particularly during pre-menaupose / menaupose. 

We’re just starting to get involved in the issue. 


As a woman in my late 30s and with my training as a dietician, I am obviously very interested in the issue. I just ordered his book “Brain Food” which I will review once I read it.

Please check Episode 88 of Kwik Brain and all the videos I posted!

#MergingIntoMyself – A Repost from the past.

Here’s a reading of a poem I wrote on this blog, a while back – called #MergingIntoMylself – that made it to my poetry book – “On Love, and Lust, and Everything in Between”. If you enjoy my poetry, and would like to support, please scroll down and click on the link below, pick your country and order a copy on Amazon. You also can sign up to my mailing list for my monthly newsletter. Tell your friends and ask your local independent bookstore to check me out and maybe order some copies!

#MergingIntoMyself – Excerpt from my Poetry Book

I long to be Free.

Free from my fears.

Free from the imaginary boundaries I inflicted mySelf.

I long to be mySelf.

The woman I’ve always meant to be. Phenomenal woman, that’s Me.

The one who will own her flaws

and recognize them

as the most enticing part of who she is.

The one who will appreciate them the way they deserve to be.

I long to be aware.

Aware of Reality

Fully aware

of the Love I’ve been the recipient of all along.

That Love

that has been kept away from my heart by the fear of being rejected.

Everyday, I look at mySelf. Everyday, I am one step closer. Everyday, I am grateful For the joys and the pains and the hardships I’ve been subjected to. I’m emerging and #MergingIntoMySelf…

Daphné Mia Essiet © All rights reserved.

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On Self-Actualization

A day in Goa

Awareness is the first step at dismantling who “you are” so you can become your true self. Without it, you can stay parked in the dream, indefinitely.


Once you are aware that, until then, outside forces have played a huge part in shaping your existence, you can finally “move on” – but not without going through stages of grief first, of course; because even if it can be a relief to realize you didn’t get where you are “on your own”, you are now to embark on a journey with yourself. Take a deep breath.


Once you’ve accepted that it’s now up to YOU to merge into “yourself”, you will need the courage to challenge everything that comes your way – from your tastes to your acquaintances, and everything in between. It will be tough at times, and it can even take you a lifetime to get to the bottom of it – But that’s what’s beautiful and worth it.

In my opinion, Self-actualization is the ability to constantly recalibrate into a better version of yourself. Grit if you will. When you have that mindset, you become unstoppable.

#OnSelfActualization

Diem Perdidi

written 01/23/2013

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The pesky sound on bald walls bounces, pulling her out

The rabbit hole she would have loved to spend the day.

There he is, striking a pose, majestic and proud,

 

Waiting on her next move, alert, carried away,

Purring louder than cicadas under hot sun.

She acknowledges his presence, so he slips away.

 

Now, her steps he precedes all the way to the kitchen:

Her heart he knows is wrapped around his little paws!

On her bare feet, he jumps, initiating fun…

 

But time is running out and the sun’s heading west

Faster than hungry lions hounding a gazelle.

She does not like her job, though tries to do her best;

 

Ultimately, ends up leafing through her new Elle

Magazine. She doesn’t even read the captions,

Instead studies models’ perfect figures: she dwells. 

 

She yearns to become the center of attention,

Out-of-reach beauty standards set by society,

While deep inside she longs for appreciation

Slowly exasperates deep insecurities.

What is a girl to do among fair goddesses?

Maybe there are details she might have overseen?

Deep down inside there are issues she must address:

Is superficiality more important than

Women’s souls, discounted by the freedom of the press?

 

It’s 5 o’clock: no time to think, just time to thank

The Universe, and forget how imperfect she is.

Gin and tonic tonight will numb her aching brain,

And maybe distract her from things she thinks she missed.

Back home, she lies in bed and snakes between the sheets

Without even undress, in her clothes she will sleep.

She drifts off in second, don’t even count sheep.

Decelerated dive down in her rabbit hole,

Another worthless day: a diem perdidi –

Unable to be claimed nor remembered, that is for sure.

 

#ForAllIntentsAndPurposes

I am thrilled by the thought
Of getting closer
To You
Even tho
#ForAllIntentsAndPurposes
Distance is best

I am thrilled by the thought
Of addressing
You
Even tho
#ForAllIntentsAndPurposes
Silence is best

I am thrilled by the thought
Of sharing fluids
With You
Even tho
#ForAllIntentsAndPurposes
Virtuality is best

I am thrilled
By early morning thoughts
Of You
Warmly rushing through me
Soft and easy

It does the trick
#ForAllIntentsAndPurposes

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#MyMissionStatement

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Textured and imperfect
An unlikely blend of spices and scent
A delectable lack of comfort
Enticing of some sort

Can’t really be placed
Or even replaced
by familiarity

Will borrow your breath
Gently let you rest
But just for a sec
Get used to it.

I write
to resolve the tensions
My sensible soul has created
From so much uncertainties

& soothe those
who can relate to
My hopes, fears and dreams

#MyMissionStatement

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#KissAndMakeUp

There is something to be said about
The way you think of others
The way you feel about them
It teaches you about yourself

Your insecurities & soft spots
Your biaises & blind spots
Are you aware of
Your Priviledge and whatnot?

Perfection has never been a requirement for Love
Being loved
Or Self-worth

So cheer up and give yourself a break
It’s time to #KissAndMakeUp with yourself

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#RealTalk

Regardless of how painful they may be
The quicker you can find a way to turn your trauma and hardships into learning experiences
The sooner you will be able to enjoy your life at its fullest

#RealTalk

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#TrustTheProcess

You have the right to feel some types of way about life
& to cry your eyes out
Cause you miss being hugged and kissed
By someone you like
& you long for a walk
Hand in hand in the park

It’s ok, you are ok
Things will change

#TrustTheProcess

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#GetYourTeamTogether

You may not fully appreciate your blessings because you are comparing yourself to a team’s efforts to make someone fit a current standard of perfection

You have to recognize you already are pretty wonderful and stand out on your own! You are smart, kind & taste like Meyer lemons meringue tart

Cheer up + #GetYourTeamTogether

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#DrinkUp

One day the Universe will ironically make you realize that you dodged a bullet

And the trauma you’ve endured will finally make sense

Hope this brings a smile to your face – today

#DrinkUp

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#OnPolitics

In the name of
À greater picture should
I conform to politics?

It sounds counterintuitive
To temporarily crush my freedoms
So to further my liberties

But when I think about it
This may have been worth it
If only I
was better at
Kissing asses…

#OnPolitics

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#Blessed

Even tho I may project
My own fears and biases
I am #blessed and fulfilled
Regardless of how I feel

Into my sometimes
blurry lenses I
Get pushed and pulled back
Before my own eyes

All I need is a shift
A bit of perspective
For my hopes and my dreams
To ever become clear

Then promplty energized
Open heart, Spirit High
I give Joy another Chance
And Love in again

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#OnSharing

I’m thinking too much – always

So I look for answers in books, podcasts, TED talks and the like

I introspect and adjust
Write and try
to become the best version I can be

I’m growing
Tho I’m not sure how this matter
If there’s no recipients but myself

#OnSharing

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018