Awareness is the first step at dismantling who “you are” so you can become your true self. Without it, you can stay parked in the dream, indefinitely.
Once you are aware that, until then, outside forces have played a huge part in shaping your existence, you can finally “move on” – but not without going through stages of grief first, of course; because even if it can be a relief to realize you didn’t get where you are “on your own”, you are now to embark on a journey with yourself. Take a deep breath.
Once you’ve accepted that it’s now up to YOU to merge into “yourself”, you will need the courage to challenge everything that comes your way – from your tastes to your acquaintances, and everything in between. It will be tough at times, and it can even take you a lifetime to get to the bottom of it – But that’s what’s beautiful and worth it.
In my opinion, Self-actualization is the ability to constantly recalibrate into a better version of yourself. Grit if you will. When you have that mindset, you become unstoppable.