On Texturism: Bodacious Mane, Big Hair Don’t Care

“What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world’s expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.” Glennon Doyle, Untamed I am so grateful for the abundance of vocabulary I have learnt over the years so to articulate the way I feel. Lately, I have been thinking about “texturism” and how it has been impacting women’s lives, … Continue reading On Texturism: Bodacious Mane, Big Hair Don’t Care

On Dancing: How Representation Can Encourage Youth to Turn to Dance

Subscribe to my newsletter: http://bit.ly/gn Representation matters. When I was about 4-5 years old I was taken to a dance class in my neighborhood. I honestly can’t recall what happened that day but by the end of the class I know I never wanted to go back again. Fast forward years later when I moved to New York, I was often asked if I was a dancer. Maybe it was because of my posture (which I got from walking on a 10cm beam in artistic gymnastics). I honestly thought people were joking around; after all, I looked nothing like the girls … Continue reading On Dancing: How Representation Can Encourage Youth to Turn to Dance

Special Ladies: Celebrating Inspiring Women

Subscribe to my newsletter: http://bit.ly/gn This post was to be published last month in honor of #WomenHistoryMonth but with everything that’s been happening, in New York and the world, I had put this aside and focused on other things. I’m happy and excited to finally do this and share these pieces with you. It hasn’t always been this way, but sisterhood had become very important for me over the years. I really wanted to create something special for Women History Month 2020 and thought that portraying women I found inspiring would be a great way to celebrate – even tho, for … Continue reading Special Ladies: Celebrating Inspiring Women


Even tho I may project My own fears and biases I am #blessed and fulfilled Regardless of how I feel Into my sometimes blurry lenses I Get pushed and pulled back Before my own eyes All I need is a shift A bit of perspective For my hopes and my dreams To ever become clear Then promplty energized Open heart, Spirit High I give Joy another Chance And Love in again ©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018 Continue reading #Blessed


Shit’s complicated- but here we are: making the best of it. Beating the odds Breaking records we never knew existed Yet, too often living with restraint Tipi toeing around fragile egos. Their subconsciously know that the Power sipping through our pores must meticulously get washed away by judgement & ever so slightly policed, err’day With diligence – to prevent Impetus to propels us so Fast & Furiously As our brightness will challenge Black Holes – And more. #Momentum ©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018 Continue reading #Momentum


Drafted Friday while watching Brandee Younger (Harp), Dezron Douglas (Bass) & David Bryant (piano) playing at #TheWestVillageSeries’ @ Cheikh’s. Edited at 3am Saturday morning, up from drinking so much Champagne. I tip the glass to my lips, Allow the champagne to burn my tongue, Then, flow down my throat Liquid gold – I’m gone. I close my eyes & feel the hype- Lose my Self, delicately. Moments of Harpsense. I close my eyes & feel the hype- Feel mySelf, indubitably Stop the pretense. Tho the Bass is grounding me, right there – My soul, aloft, quivers from the thrill. More Champagne… … Continue reading #TheBuzz


I long to be Free. Free from my fears. Free from the imaginary boundaries I inflicted mySelf. I long to be mySelf. The woman I’ve always meant to be. Phenomenal woman, that’s Me. The one who will own her flaws and recognize them as the most enticing part of who she is. The one who will appreciate them the way they deserve to be. I long to be aware. Aware of Reality Fully aware of the Love I’ve been the recipient all along. That Love that has been kept away from my heart by the fear of being rejected. Everyday, … Continue reading #MergingIntoMyself


The way you talked to me makes it hard. It makes it hard to get involved with someone. What used to be easy became complicated. You declared you did not expect a thing, but would give me the world… #IfILetYou. You affirmed someone will always love me. #Unconditionally. That it’s written all over me. You whispered *that someone* will kiss the ground I walk on, hold my hand and rub my feet. #Gladly. You raised the bar so high I’m afraid to look up. You raised the bar so high, I’m afraid to look down. What was easy became complicated; … Continue reading #InLimbo


Have you? If not, you should. Easier said than done, I know… I believe that the most effective way to change the world for the better is to finally acknowledge and empower women the way they should always have been. Last week I was told I had a Queen Complex. I was told I had a #QueenComplex because I believe that I should be treated like I am special. But (in my mind) I do think I am, and I also believe that all my sisters out there are. Call me vain, full of myself or even over-confident; however, the … Continue reading #HaveYouClaimedYourQueendom?