#KissAndMakeUp

There is something to be said about
The way you think of others
The way you feel about them
It teaches you about yourself

Your insecurities & soft spots
Your biaises & blind spots
Are you aware of
Your Priviledge and whatnot?

Perfection has never been a requirement for Love
Being loved
Or Self-worth

So cheer up and give yourself a break
It’s time to #KissAndMakeUp with yourself

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#RealTalk

Regardless of how painful they may be
The quicker you can find a way to turn your trauma and hardships into learning experiences
The sooner you will be able to enjoy your life at its fullest

#RealTalk

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#GetYourTeamTogether

You may not fully appreciate your blessings because you are comparing yourself to a team’s efforts to make someone fit a current standard of perfection

You have to recognize you already are pretty wonderful and stand out on your own! You are smart, kind & taste like Meyer lemons meringue tart

Cheer up + #GetYourTeamTogether

©️ Daphné Mia Essiet, 2018

#Blessed

Even tho I may project
My own fears and biases
I am #blessed and fulfilled
Regardless of how I feel

Into my sometimes
blurry lenses I
Get pushed and pulled back
Before my own eyes

All I need is a shift
A bit of perspective
For my hopes and my dreams
To ever become clear

Then promplty energized
Open heart, Spirit High
I give Joy another Chance
And Love in again

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#JustPlantingSeeds

“We accept the Love we think we deserve”

If you are wondering
If it’s not the moon and the stars
If this made you think
If you feel some type of way
You probably deserve more

#JustPlantingSeeds

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#Momentum

Shit’s complicated- but here we are: making the best of it.

Beating the odds
Breaking records we never knew existed
Yet, too often living with restraint
Tipi toeing around fragile egos.

Their subconsciously know that the Power sipping through our pores must
meticulously get washed away by judgement
& ever so slightly policed, err’day
With diligence – to prevent Impetus to propels us so Fast & Furiously

As our brightness will challenge Black Holes –
And more.

#Momentum

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#TenGuiltyPleasures

1. Watching cat videos on Instagram
2. Roaming in Marshall’s for hours
3. Eating Nutella
4. listening to 90’s misogynist hip hop songs
5. Girls dancing on a pole
6. Internet shopping
7. Smoking Shisha
8. Sipping on Hendricks + Tonic + 3 lemons
9. Pretty boys
10. Your lips on mine

#TenGuiltyPleasures

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#SmallTalk

In any capacity, the type of bonding(s) we are able to generate makes all the difference. From atoms to people, it undoubtedly dictates its architecture, in terms of aesthetics and functionality, hence the strength and length of any relationships.

About #SmallTalk… I recently realized that I really- really – really despise it. I do tolerate a 20-80 ratio, but too much rambling usually bruises my aura and hurts my soul…

Interestingly enough, for a long time, I was unable to pinpoint the reasons why I’d find some people so enticing and others bland. For a long time, I was incapable to tangibly grasp why strong bonds [or lack thereof] were to form between me and [InsertHere] strangers/acquaintances/friends/family members/lovers. Curiosity being my middle name, (I’m an enquirer) as well as my being feisty, newness has always ignited my cravings for debates, arguments and french kissing beautiful lips. (Not necessarily in that order)

I’m passionate about *understanding processes* on how worlds revolve.
I’m passionate about voicing my he[art].
I’m passionate about deep diving.

Isn’t tasting each other souls a potent way to bond?
Isn’t experiencing different flavors an interesting way to discover the depths of our inner-selves?
How else could we, as spiritual entities, blend and connect at a deeper level if not for a genuine desire for comprehension?

Too much #SmallTalk, this tue-l’amour, this charade of word collection – is most definitely lethal to meaningful relationships.

In any capacity, the type(s) of bonding we are able to generates makes all the difference.

Maybe not for everyone… But it does, for me.

#SmallTalk

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2016

#HaveYouClaimedYourQueendom?

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Have you? If not, you should. Easier said than done, I know…

I believe that the most effective way to change the world for the better is to finally acknowledge and empower women the way they should always have been. Last week I was told I had a Queen Complex. I was told I had a #QueenComplex because I believe that I should be treated like I am special. But (in my mind) I do think I am, and I also believe that all my sisters out there are. Call me vain, full of myself or even over-confident; however, the reality is that I allow myself to be out of my comfort zone and live my truth. I still feel insecure and inadequate, but not because I am being judged by others. I feel insecure and inadequate simply because it takes a moment to adjust to newness.

I will admit that over the years I have made mistakes: I have lied and manipulated. I have used, judged and disregarded others’ feelings. I have even been conniving, spoke hurtful words and was unfair to those who loved me most; and this was the kind version to the things I inflicted to myself. The pain flourishing in my womb quickly encompassed my heart and blazed those who dare to come too close. Numbness had me unable to feel pleasure even from the most delectable gifts life was offering.

Then one day, the Shift of Consciousness occurred when a little angel reminded me that Queens love themselves regardless of circumstances and radiate that love so others can feel the softness of their touch, the warmth of their breath, the solace in their words like a tender caress. Queens rise up and lead, and fill their higher purpose. Queens don’t let shame paralyze them. Interestingly enough, it was not the first time this angel had come to me, but this time I decided to listen because I felt ready.

Unfortunately, as women, we face so many challenges, starting with ourselves; challenges influenced by society, our peers/family, the media and everything in between. Again, I consider that all women have this innate untapped super power, which in most occurrences we regrettably fail to recognize, and are totally unaware of how potent it is. Hence, most of us live our entire lives consumed by this unreleased verve.

My wish is for the future is to unleash the full potential that reside in every Queen out there, to nurture, inspire, uplift and support their spirit with love and compassion.

Have you claimed your Queendom yet?
I hope those words will hearten your soul and motivate you to do so.
Most importantly, be gentle to yourself.

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2015

#OnLoveAndLustAndEverythingInBetween (Part1)

I sometimes wonder if I will ever fall in Love again.

Some days it is obvious I will, others I doubt it very much.

Let me reiterate: I wonder if, one day, I will fall into this reciprocated Love that feels so good that nothing seems* to matter anymore, at least for a while. That Lust that overrides everything and shields you from all the negative clouds coming your way.

That astounding pleasure that lingers down your belly, tickling butterflies…  exhilarating, intoxicating, inspiring, rush of Oxytocin… Pretty dope, pretty sweet.

A parallel world where shades of blue superpose and intertwine into an undulating ocean of softness and where each breath ends in a sigh…Ooo… Can you taste the rainbow yet?

Anyway, if you feel I am delusional or too romantic: #BlameItOnMaxwell not on me… I trust that the universe will provide me with what I need, when I will need it the most. All I want is a piece of that bliss…
Love Jones

#OnLustLoveAndEverythingInBetween (Poem)

I sometimes wonder if

I will fall in Love again.

This reciprocated Love

So good nothing seems* to matter anymore

That Lust that overrides everything

Encompasses your soul with thrills

Shields you from dark clouds

Astounding pleasure lingering down, tickling butterflies…

Exhilarating, intoxicating, inspiring, rush of Oxytocin

Pretty dope, pretty sweet.

A parallel world where shades of blue superpose

Intertwine into an undulating ocean of softness

Where each breath ends in a sigh.

All I want is a piece of that bliss…

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2015

#IfGodExists

#IfGodExists
She won’t mind me questioning her existence.

#IfGodExists
She is waiting on my next move.

#IfGodExists
She is unapologetically fierce and beautifully honest.

#IfGodExists
She loves purposely and accepts unconditionally.
 
She forgives and understands.
She accordingly provides.
She never doubts and she believes.
She judges not and always allows me to wonder if God exists.

#IfGodExists

©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2015