On Texturism: Bodacious Mane, Big Hair Don’t Care

“What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world’s expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must beContinue reading “On Texturism: Bodacious Mane, Big Hair Don’t Care”

On Dancing: How Representation Can Encourage Black Youth to Turn to Dance

Subscribe to my newsletter: http://bit.ly/gn Representation matters. When I was about 4-5 years old I was taken to a dance class in my neighborhood. I honestly can’t recall what happened that day but by the end of the class I know I never wanted to go back again. Fast forward years later when I movedContinue reading “On Dancing: How Representation Can Encourage Black Youth to Turn to Dance”

On Doing What’s Right

Subscribe to my newsletter: http://bit.ly/gn Two people can do or react similarly for different reasons. Two people can do and react differently for the same reason. Read that again. It’s hard to tell which is which for many reasons. One: we project – we tend to empathize more with those who look like us or weContinue reading “On Doing What’s Right”

#Blessed

Even tho I may project My own fears and biases I am #blessed and fulfilled Regardless of how I feel Into my sometimes blurry lenses I Get pushed and pulled back Before my own eyes All I need is a shift A bit of perspective For my hopes and my dreams To ever become clearContinue reading “#Blessed”

#JustPlantingSeeds

“We accept the Love we think we deserve” If you are wondering If it’s not the moon and the stars If this made you think If you feel some type of way You probably deserve more #JustPlantingSeeds ©️ Daphne Mia Essiet, 2018

#AtTime

#AtTime, there is a definite disconnect between the person I know I am, and the way I feel about myself. Let me reiterate: I get insecure. #AtTime. But I am not completely sure why. Pragmatically, I have nothing to complain about, I guess… Of course there will always be a Better-Looking-Smarter-Tighter-Booty-More-Accomplished-Talented-Perfect-Skin-Perfect-Teeth-Perfect-Fro-Perfect-Diet-Goes-To-The-Gym-On-A-Regular-Basis-Drinks-One-Gallon-Of-Water-A-Day-Has-That-Flawless-Fashion-Sense-Eloquent-Just-Got-Her-PHD-Chick, ya know… you feelContinue reading “#AtTime”

#LifeBitsFallingIntoPlace

Isn’t it interesting how life can change so drastically in the space of a few months? How one year you are planning for future tense with someone and the next year you are just here, starting *fresh* cause there is literally nothing left but old pictures and fading memories. You wonder what’s next cause youContinue reading “#LifeBitsFallingIntoPlace”

#InLimbo

The way you talked to me makes it hard. It makes it hard to get involved with someone. What used to be easy became complicated. You declared you did not expect a thing, but would give me the world… #IfILetYou. You affirmed someone will always love me. #Unconditionally. That it’s written all over me. YouContinue reading “#InLimbo”

#IfUAskMeTo

I’m oversharing ‘cause, In reality who knows if We’ll ever meet again? From Now on Anything can happen… Your next move is inconsequential For what matters is mine Your next move is relevant Only if it includes my heart Handled with dignity Care for reciprocity I’m over sharing ‘cause In reality who knows if We’ll ever speak again?Continue reading “#IfUAskMeTo”

#TheMessenger

“The Universe does not make any mistakes; She has been doing this ish* for a while now and it does not matter what you think you really want; I know you really, really want it, and it seems like this is IT – but you are confused; what you want is irrelevant because as theContinue reading “#TheMessenger”

#PTSD

Although #heartbreak does not kill you, it does a number on you; the fear of another encounter is sometimes so overwhelming that it almost does not matter you survived. You just can’t help but look over your shoulder and/or second guess yourself. You keep hoping, smiling, praying, chanting… or whatever else you usually do toContinue reading “#PTSD”

#ShortUpdate

For the past month I have been sleep deprived and expectedly it has clouded my judgment and nudged my inner balance; and because of all the life changing events presently occurring it has been challenging. Although I am still experiencing anxiety, and I am extremely tired, these past couple of days I felt a deepContinue reading “#ShortUpdate”

#AboutPatience

#AboutPatience Every time I felt challenged, I got extremely overwhelmed. Although my life might appear unorthodox for some people, I have been living very comfortable and cautious existence. Here’s the problem: nobody has ever reached the sky by being safe, and the sky is all I’ve been longing for. I’ve been meaning to explore thisContinue reading “#AboutPatience”

#AreYouYou?

  Every once in a while there is a slight shift, some sort of spiritual awakening. Then, one day as you open your eyes, you realize you have been catering to a certain ideal, specific expectations that somehow were not necessarily aligned with your inner self. Deep down you might* have known all along thatContinue reading “#AreYouYou?”

#NeverEnough?

I never feel like I’m enough. I used to be an avid reader growing up and although I still read regularly there are so many others books to be read, so many authors I don’t even know about. I graduated last September. My studies were as challenging than rewarding and I am so grateful IContinue reading “#NeverEnough?”

Can We All Just Get Along? #PeaceOffering

   I recently celebrated the 11th anniversary of my arrival in New York. Eleven years, is a long time. Yet, when you meet an 11 year old, you feel as they don’t know much about life and that the best is yet to come. Of course I miss many things about my mother’s land: myContinue reading “Can We All Just Get Along? #PeaceOffering”

How do I deal with certain things as a Self-Declared Woman oF Rich Ethnical and Cultural Background (WRECB)

Disclaimer: my ideas and opinions are subjected to change as I go through this beautiful thing we call life. You can help me shape my ideas by commenting and sharing your own perspective, as long as it is done in a respectful manner. I am looking forward to hearing from you! These past few daysContinue reading “How do I deal with certain things as a Self-Declared Woman oF Rich Ethnical and Cultural Background (WRECB)”